Fear was one emotion that I needed to work on a lot after I made the commitment to heal myself of fatigue symptoms it was a detrimental to my energy and my ability to function with my every day activities.
What helped me to let go of fear was to explore my fear negative thoughts through journal writing so when fear came into my thoughts I would write on paper the things that were going through my mind then I would examine to see whether this fear was true or not. Most times it wasn’t.
Fear In Disciplining
For instance one day I was trying to discipline my 5 year old daughter and witnessed that my fear of doing it and hurting Emily’s feelings and not being loved was being reflected onto her. She would hide and be frightened. When I asked her why she hid Emily said that she was scared of how angry I got with her. This made me reflect on how my voice was and what I was thinking when I told her not to do something. I had more anger in my voice for needing to discipline her this decreased my energy and not healthy for her or for me. I didn’t not like to discipline and it reflected in my tone of voice.
What Helped?
I’ve decided to think of it as not as a dislike of disciplining, but as an action to help Emily to grow and understand right from wrong, but to also allow her to make decisions better when she gets older. And if she does a tantrum I will expect it and let her be until she calms down and we can talk about it better. Most importantly to watch my tone of voice, to be authority, but not have a strong anger and fear base of doing this action. Doing so I’ve noticed love in Emily more so and an understanding that I’m keeping her safe and secure in her world. And I feel the love now then anger when doing what is right for her.
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